Hello Friends! Hope the blustery days of summer are finding you well. I’m sure you, like most locals having been saying "a rainy summer, is better than a smoky one." I agree 100%. Some people, however, do find reasons to complain about pretty much anything. You know that type... the Eeyores. Sure we’re all guilty of it from time to time, but some just perpetuate the blues (insert Elton John’s "I guess that’s why they call it the blues"). While burning a very short candle at both ends the stress and joys of being a new business owner often pours into every aspect of my life. Making time to destress is so incredibly important, and I have the most beautiful space to do so in. Putting aside that time is the tricky thing. I put daily reminders in my phone to ensure I do, even if for just 10 minutes every 3 hours of a 16 hour day. What has surfaced during yoga training, home life and business shenanigans is DRAMA! Yes, I capitalize it on purpose. So much different than stress. I’ve written before about stress; our puppy being the muse and how joy or excitement can be stressful on the body, mind, and soul. DRAMA (insert dramatic music in your mind, every time you feel some creeping up... oddly effective to becoming aware, and kind of funny).
I own that fact that I do create my own DRAMA sometimes, without even realizing I’m doing it. Perhaps replaying or verbally repeating an event that irked me, looking for validation of some kind. But it’s not real stress, it’s minor stuff. The bits of everyday life I should just let go of. The more we spin something around in our head the more dramatic it can become. Some people create a wake of DRAMA behind them without a care in the world. Words falling from their lips without thought, not even taking the time to ask those they are speaking AT if it’s ok to share their DRAMA. I don’t believe it’s intentional, and I’m grateful for their actions as it’s a great way to mirror my own behavior and how much I want to relinquish DRAMA from life completely. What could DRAMA include? Maybe you’re cultivating a list on your own, maybe even write it down and start making small changes to erase them. You know what they are, I honestly can feel my proverbial eyes roll when the DRAMA starts... whether out of my own mouth or the mouths of others. Trying to turn off the spin cycle once it starts is hard, but I have learned it is incredibly necessary. Excusing myself from conversations, softly changing the subject. Lightening the mood with a little joke perhaps. This is not to negate another’s feelings at all, real stress and life itself is hard and we need to share those burdens in a safe space with others… But maybe we could ask first if it’s ok too. I am also working towards the sentence (echoing my master yoga teacher here) ‘do you want feedback’, before I interject with my thoughts. Maybe some people just need to be heard. DRAMA, however, does not need to take up your thought space or your cloud your mind.
All I know for sure is time can be well spent in fun-loving, thought-provoking supportive and kind dialogue without all the DRAMA. Moving forward I continue to create a DRAMA-free bubble around me, for my heart’s sake. It will help declutter my overtaxed mind and allow me to be more productive, patient and kind. Think about little ways to reduce DRAMA in your life. I’d love to hear what you come up with. It’s your life … it’s waiting... LIVE IT NOW!
